What do you want to be when you grow up? As kids this was such an incredibly innocent and simple question. The answers were the typical vet, doctor, or police man. But then we got older, grew up, and most of us realized that we had no clue what we wanted to do with our lives. With the exception of maybe a few.

 

what do you want to be when you grow up

 

I believe this is one of those situations where you are expected to know what you want to do for the rest of your life, but in all reality no one really does. People in their 50s admit they still don’t know what they want to be when they grow up. High school graduates often go into school and graduate, still clueless.

I’m in that boat. For sure. Just the other day I shouted to my (little) brother and asked if he knew what he wanted to be when he grows up. When I say little, I mean 19 years old, one year left of college, electrical engineer major, a PAID intern, who also owns his own vending machine business. That little brother. He, without hesitation, shouted back “no”. Which honestly, was a bit of relief to me–if he didn’t have it figured out, I didn’t feel too bad.

Nevertheless, this is still a hard situation to be in. If you are like me, you don’t know exactly what you want, but you do know you don’t want to waste your life and have no purpose. So what’s a girl to do? I’m going to share my experience and why this is not a bad situation.

You’re not alone

Take comfort, Friend, in that you are not the only one who feels this way. There are many many people, young and old, who still don’t know what they want to be when they grow up. I’m a perfect example of that! It’s not unusual, it’s not uncommon, you’re not weird (totally). So don’t freak out just yet.

It’s okay to not know–at least for now

It’s unfortunate that high school students are pressured to know what they want to do (you know, for the rest of their lives) and to go to college immediately following graduation. While a higher education is very important and good to have under your belt, the truth is, it’s not for every one. Or maybe, just not right now. When someone is pressured to go to college with no clear goals, they often end up wasting a lot of money and precious time. Why do you think so many kids change majors half way through?

Take time to think it through. Not forever. Because you can’t just sit around the rest of your life planning. But it’s okay to take time to really brainstorm what you want.

Don’t just sit on your butt

While taking time off is fine, or experimenting, do not just sit around! The more you put yourself out there, the more life you experience, the more insight you will gain about yourself and what you like, as well as what you really want to do. Get involved, WORK, apply and challenge yourself. Sitting in your parent’s basement, jobless, is not “exploring”.

Decide what you do want

Chances are, you are not completely 100% clueless as to what you want or what you enjoy. Think about, and even write down, what you know you want. For example, I love design, fashion, planning, blogging, and decorating. That opens up doors to blogging full time, event planning, or pursuing a degree in one of those fields. I also have long term wants as well. Such as getting married and having a family. While I’m only 22, I know for sure that one day I want kids and I want to stay home to raise my own babies. And while that is not my immediate life, those future goals play a role in current considerations.

Ask around

I also suggest that you ask around and explore your fields of interest. So if you are going to work while in school or exploring your options, find a job that is in, or somewhat near, what you enjoy. This will give you the opportunity to get your feet wet without jumping in and committing.

Take risks & make yourself uncomfortable

It’s cliché, but you don’t grow by staying in your comfort zone. Anyone who is successful did not get that way easily or comfortably. If you want to find your passion and really do something big, you need to start pushing yourself.

At the beginning of this year I took a new job. Not a huge change, and geographically it was like 7 minutes from my old job. I left my office job I had been at for 3 1/2 years to take a receptionist position at a salon. It was nothing overly dramatic, but it was a change and honestly, I was really unsure. I knew I would miss a lot of people I had worked next to for years. The atmosphere would be different, the hours changed, and the biggest question: what if I regretted it? What if it turned out to be a bad decision? “What if” will probably hold you back more than anything else will. But I went for it and now I’m 3 months in. Nothing life-changing has happened–yet. But I have made new friends, new connections, developed and built on skills, and learned new things. While I don’t know where this will go, it is a great job while I’m in school and who knows where it can lead.

Don’t wait forever

At some point you’ll have to jump. Maybe not now, but you can’t be indecisive your whole life (preaching to myself here). And one bittersweet thing about life is that it changes often. The path you choose now may not be the same road in 10 years. New opportunities come along. Which is also why it’s important to keep yourself open to new changes.

And just to give you guys an idea of where I’m at, I’m 22 and in my freshmen year of college. I waited a few years after high school, and honestly didn’t think I would go back to school at all. But I did, and I love it. Currently, I’m an interior design major. Oftentimes I feel behind and wish I had started sooner. A lot of my friends are close to graduation, and I have just started. But I appreciate it a lot more than I would have 3 1/2 years ago. And yeah, I often wonder what I want to be when I grow up. I love blogging and would love to expand in that area. So it’s ok guys to be unsure. (I wrote a post about the benefits of waiting to go to college if you want more on that!)

My last bit of advice is to just enjoy life. And if you are younger, take advantage of the opportunities you have right now while you can. While these can be tricky years, people often look back and miss them.

I hope this helped you, or at least encouraged you to realize that you’re not alone, and it’s ok. You’re going to be fine. I would love to hear from you guys about any thoughts or things that have helped you out.

Happy weekend.

 

how to wear a romper for spring

how to wear a romper for spring

how to wear a romper for spring

how to wear a romper for spring

 

I have this thing with rompers. And with the thought of summer + sunshine, I am gushing over them right now! I’m always checking them out at my favorite shops and especially love the floral patterns. (This is getting romantic). And with summer vacations coming up, this is the perfect little outfit to wear for a casual afternoon or dinner out. They are so INCREDIBLY easy to style because you hardly have to worry about matching. All you really need to add are shoes–if you want. But since it is still not quite summer yet, I’m sharing this cute outfit plus tips on how to style a romper for spring.

Honestly, I found this romper at Kohl’s. I’m usually not a huge fan of Kohl’s (I’m much too faithful to Target)–but this was just too cute not to share. I can’t find it online, although I just purchased it the other day. I linked some others down below that you can find on Amazon. Since spring can still be a bit chilly to pull off your typical summer romper, there are a few ways you can make it spring appropriate.

Sleeves

Finding a romper with long sleeves is perfect for spring (or summer nights). While sleeveless is cute, it can be a bit too summery for spring–especially if the temps are still on the cooler side. Long sleeves compensate for the shorts + add a bit more warmth.

Jacket or Sweater

You really can’t go wrong with a good jean jacket. It is a great staple to keep on hand because it goes with so much, making it worth the investment. Especially pairing one with a flowy top or dress is a cute way to wear a jean jacket and add structure. I love the rough + pretty combo. If you want to keep the outfit softer, pair the romper instead with a cardi.

Shoes

I have been wearing these booties all spring. I wore them in my spring transition post that you can check out. They are my favorite go-tos. Until you can pull of the sandals, they are a great alternative. Peep-toe booties would also work well too if you are looking at how to style a romper for spring. If the romper is more casual, you could even go with sneakers or slip-ons as well.


How to style a spring trench coat

How to style a spring trench coat

How to style a spring trench coat

How to style a spring trench coat

How to style a spring trench coat

How to style a spring trench coat

 

Hey Lovelies. I’m sharing this perfect little spring trench coat today and some of the best ways to style one. For those of you who don’t know, I live in NE Ohio, just south of Cleveland. Which means that while it is technically spring, it doesn’t really feel like spring yet. However, I’m sick of wearing heavy winter clothing–it’s getting old. This jacket is great for spring but will still keep you warm.

I found this jacket at Express. It is full price now, however just last week it was 40% off. So keep an eye out for that sale to pop back up. I’ll link it below. It comes in a few colors including a yellow and light pink (black if you want to keep it classic). The colors are perfect for spring, and I fell in love with this dusty blue hue (I love it with the white denim). In addition to the colors, it is a lighter material so you don’t feel weighed down. I also love the style because it offers a casual + classy look. I prefer to keep things simple so a trench coat like this is easygoing but also really pulls an outfit together.

White denim! I should not be trusted with white–even though I love the brightness of these pants. (I just like cheeseburgers + mayonnaise too much.) But pants like these are perfect because they are a great seasonal look that offers enough coverage to keep you warm. And they will last you all through the summer. Just throw on a tank and a pair of sandals for summer days and a jean jacket for the nights.

 Trench coats look great with jeans or dress pants. I like them paired with pants that are tighter around the ankles because the slimmer bottoms are a nice contrast with the flow and flair of the jacket. If your pants are too wide or baggy, it will all run together which will take away from your shape and make you look sloppy. Your pants don’t have to be tight by any means–especially if you are uncomfortable with that feel. Just make sure they are your size and fit properly.

If you are looking for a dressier look, pair it with a skirt or dress that is more fitted. A pencil skirt is a great option or my body con dress from my most recent post would be perfect. If your bottoms are longer and loser I would suggest instead wearing a cropped jacket to break it up. But since trench coats tend to be longer, don’t style it with anything that will look too baggy.

 I love simple + easygoing, so I just paired this with your typical tee. Knotting it on the bottom adds a cute little detail (you don’t have to buy them pre-knotted, lol!). I generally tend to like looser tops overall, but with this jacket you really can’t go wrong with the top you choose. Just stay away from anything that looks too casual (like a flannel, hoodie or workout clothes). But other than that, your options are pretty open.

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